The wife dented the cuba.. on purpose..

[Capt Jack]

see, the problem with the 'std woman crap'...is more times than not, they have a point.  not that its A's fault or B's fault, but they dont as a rule go off for no reason.  you may not know or see or agree with said reason, but its rarely for NO reason.


the car is nice.  Im betting you put a shitload of work into it.  attention to detail and all that...yeah?

marriage can be nice too.....but again, you need to put a shitload of work into it to make and keep it nice.

and not to brag or scoff, but...a dent?

mine blinded me once
broke a rib once
threw me out at least 3 times........


stayed with her for 25 years. god I loved that woman.  still to this day do.  took no shit and gave out plenty....wouldnt trade a second of it.


RIP baby.   


good luck man.

[satellite65]

As serious as this is, and you have an awesome ride, I do believe our friends here have over-reacted. Some I am sure are kidding, but others I am not sure about. You are not talking about some chick you picked up last night at the bar. This is your wife, your soul mate and she has made a huge mistake. If your 6 year old child accidently scratches your car, you don't kill them or dig holes in the ground for them. Even if you buddy comes over to help you work on your car and puts a screwdriver in his back pocket and accidently scratchs your car, as much as you would like to punch him in the face, you just have him fix it. Anger and revenge will get you no where, except jail. This is what you do. You let her know that you love her dearly and tell her how dissappointed you are in her actions of destroying something of such high value to you. You let her know that no matter how angry she is at you, destroying your property is not an acceptable option if she intends your relationship to work. Let her know that you will get this fixed and you will give her the bill, which she must pay out her own pocket (not the house money). Give her an appropriate payment plan that is reasonable and well within her means. These cars that we treasure so dearly, in the end are really just metal. It was fixed once before and it can be done again. A persons life can never be replaced, not even yours! May the peace of God guard your heart, that you remain in the right frame of mind at all times! My prayers are with you!!!

You've gotta be kidding! This was an act of SPITE. Yes. It is just a car and if it were an accident he would probably just fix it and get on with life. As far as a "payment plan" out of her pocket is concerned, in the end it all comes from the same place. It's not really about the car, more so the fact that she wanted to "hurt" him and this was convenient and effective. Now he's going to put the car in storage where it will be safe. What happens next time she gets angry and decides to "hurt" him. What will she damage? The home or, god forbid, the kids? The dog? When does it end? I'm sorry but sometimes love and compassion and understanding just doesn't get the job done. She has anger management issues and needs professional help.

[NYrr496]

Can you lock her out of the garage?  My lovely prize has no access to the garage because she has no clue the value of which I hold dear. 

[chryco]

So the wife is angy at me and she goes out to the garage to get in her car.. I hear a noise but dont think much about it and go about my activities..
Today, I drive the car to work and as I do my walk around after parking it I spot a nice big ding and to scratches on my rear QP.. I know it wasnt there last time I drove it, at which point I never left the car for even a minute.. I must imagine it happened in my own garage ! So what do I do now?

Why was she angry with you ? C`mon fess up !What did we do / not do / forget ?

[DART VADER]

The next time you take a dump...rub a little on your shorts...throw them in the Hamper...Keep increasing the amount till it gets really nasty...   When she asks you what's going on, tell her it's an accident that keeps happening every time you look at the Ding on your Cuda that someone did without even an apology and your not sure it will stop until you find out who did the Deed.  Either she keeps cleaning your shitty underwear...or she comes clean and admits what she did....If she gets pissy about it...kick her to the curb.... ...I hate people that have NO respect for other peoples things....

you're killing me 

[Dave_n_68_383S]

Who knows what gets them crazy.. I cant worry about that..

I believe in a relationship you have two choices with all interactions..

1). Deal with it
2). Leave

When it gets right down to it nobody changes.. So you can put up with it or you can leave.
The option is not available to stay and make someone miserable in the process.

This is why she is mad.. I am 45 years old and I am a decent guy. Have never cheated, and am a "help" around the house.
I cook most nights ( include clean up ) I do a load of laundry most days and I attend all my kids events. I also aam a business owner
and am pretty busy with that.. I have one teen daughter who thinks I could not be more perfect..

She: Is a stay home mom, wants for nothing but time to herself.. How do I give her that ? No idea.. I already try to take the load off for her.
I cleaned the house for her this week and did all the ironing ( none of it is mine ). I offered to buy her a cleaning lady, but she wont have it.
Bottom line is she is an wreck and wants to look everywhere but inside for the answer. and to that I say option 1 or 2.

Keep you updated.. Shame my yellow baby cant stay with me for a while.. Maybe I'll put her in the wifes old car bay in a couple months.
Capt.. Nice that you have fond memories of your wife.. I dont have so many. Wish I did..

[67Dart34dr0]

Good vacations? Something that shows enough of an excuse to get through it would be good. You have a good plan there holding your car up, maybe it's a good idea. If you can't find any way to fix the problem, avoid it. Shame your pride and joy machine would take any bit of it.

A good idea might be to find what would get her mind off of the stress, maybe she feels like she's living in your shadow and doesn't get to do enough of the "big moment" stuff. I'd say that until you fix the problem, maybe keep the car and select other stuff out of it.

[ValiantOne]

That video was nasty and wrong. A dude punching a chick in the kitty?? WTF. I hope his cell mate is twice his size and finds him very attractive

[MyCreation68]

It sounds like she has issues. Time to get her to ether deal with them in a productive manner or hit the bricks. I'd kick her car out of the garage and lock the garage up tight. Your at a fork in the road. she can ether deal with her issues or she should leave.

[Capt Jack]

Capt.. Nice that you have fond memories of your wife.. I dont have so many. Wish I did..

.  well the cracked rib isnt what I could call a 'fond' memory.  that hurt like a mo-fo

the blinded thing was sort of a 'accident'.....didnt change the facts though.

get her some help, even if she resists.  if I had done so for mine, she might still be around to pester me.  I dont wish that on you or anyone.

peace in all its forms bro.

[chryco]

I sure do feel for you Bud,hope you can work things out. Hate to see a family come apart , even more than a cool ride getting marked up like that.

[Dave_n_68_383S]

That video was nasty and wrong. A dude punching a chick in the kitty?? WTF. I hope his cell mate is twice his size and finds him very attractive

Agreed but somehow just today, it made me smile just a little.

[MyCreation68]

so how is your relationship with your wife? From what I know of marriages that get to this point they arn't very good. I think you should look up a lawyer and get things squared away in case things go downhill. the writing is on the wall, if she's willing to hurt you like this she's willing to walk.

[PinkE]

Who knows what gets them crazy.. I cant worry about that..

I believe in a relationship you have two choices with all interactions..

1). Deal with it
2). Leave

When it gets right down to it nobody changes.. So you can put up with it or you can leave.
The option is not available to stay and make someone miserable in the process.

This is why she is mad.. I am 45 years old and I am a decent guy. Have never cheated, and am a "help" around the house.
I cook most nights ( include clean up ) I do a load of laundry most days and I attend all my kids events. I also aam a business owner
and am pretty busy with that.. I have one teen daughter who thinks I could not be more perfect..

She: Is a stay home mom, wants for nothing but time to herself.. How do I give her that ? No idea.. I already try to take the load off for her.
I cleaned the house for her this week and did all the ironing ( none of it is mine ). I offered to buy her a cleaning lady, but she wont have it.
Bottom line is she is an wreck and wants to look everywhere but inside for the answer. and to that I say option 1 or 2.

Keep you updated.. Shame my yellow baby cant stay with me for a while.. Maybe I'll put her in the wifes old car bay in a couple months.
Capt.. Nice that you have fond memories of your wife.. I dont have so many. Wish I did..

So much for my idea.... your already doing the laundry....

[Jens69BB]

You've gotta be kidding! This was an act of SPITE. Yes. It is just a car and if it were an accident he would probably just fix it and get on with life. As far as a "payment plan" out of her pocket is concerned, in the end it all comes from the same place. It's not really about the car, more so the fact that she wanted to "hurt" him and this was convenient and effective. Now he's going to put the car in storage where it will be safe. What happens next time she gets angry and decides to "hurt" him. What will she damage? The home or, god forbid, the kids? The dog? When does it end? I'm sorry but sometimes love and compassion and understanding just doesn't get the job done. She has anger management issues and needs professional help.

I wouldn't compare putting a dent in someone's car to hitting an innocent bystander.  My last relationship was pretty nasty at times.  Kinda like what Jack's sounds like.  I loved the boy to death but we would argue a lot and take it way too far.  He was the king of mental abuse and I was the queen of physical.  I wouldn't say I have a serious temper but that boy knew exactly what to say to cut me right to the bone and get a reaction.  Did I swing at him? A couple of times.  Did I throw an elbow into his truck? Once.  He made me so freakin angry and hurt with what he would say.  Although violence is never justified,  it's easy to push people over the edge. However,  I learned to control my temper but he never could control his mouth and thus why we are not together anymore.  I would have never hurt his cats or someone else though.
From what I've read from  Dave today, it sounds like he isn't too sympathetic to his wife's feelings whether her reasons for feeling that way are justified or not.  She definitely seems like she's frustrated and I'm sure Dave just calling it "woman crap" is just making things worse for her.  I'm not saying who's fault it is since we are all just getting one side of the story here but it seems like you both need to stop and talk instead of throwing the blame on each other and creating anymore resent.  If you can't come to some sort of understanding then maybe it is time to seek further help or call it quits. 
I'm not all that experienced in the relationship field but that's my $.02; some of which I may regret admitting to here later.

[St.Louis-Dart]

Start doing some really weird shit.....like get a ladder out and stomp around of the roof of the house..go in the house unplug all the tv`s..fill a bowl up with ice
leave it in the sink...pack all your old clothes in a plastic bag and set it by the door.turn the shower on then go out and water the grass..ect ect...when she asks what your doing just say
theres some shit going on around here i dont understand......but ill find out...
you will scare the hell out of her and she will leave for a few days and come back .and will never touch your car again. 

[tnplumber]

That really sucks.  Does she show any remorse? 

[ramman16248]

As serious as this is, and you have an awesome ride, I do believe our friends here have over-reacted. Some I am sure are kidding, but others I am not sure about. You are not talking about some chick you picked up last night at the bar. This is your wife, your soul mate and she has made a huge mistake. If your 6 year old child accidently scratches your car, you don't kill them or dig holes in the ground for them. Even if you buddy comes over to help you work on your car and puts a screwdriver in his back pocket and accidently scratchs your car, as much as you would like to punch him in the face, you just have him fix it. Anger and revenge will get you no where, except jail. This is what you do. You let her know that you love her dearly and tell her how dissappointed you are in her actions of destroying something of such high value to you. You let her know that no matter how angry she is at you, destroying your property is not an acceptable option if she intends your relationship to work. Let her know that you will get this fixed and you will give her the bill, which she must pay out her own pocket (not the house money). Give her an appropriate payment plan that is reasonable and well within her means. These cars that we treasure so dearly, in the end are really just metal. It was fixed once before and it can be done again. A persons life can never be replaced, not even yours! May the peace of God guard your heart, that you remain in the right frame of mind at all times! My prayers are with you!!!

I must say that I don't know enough about the situation here to pass judgement. I will admit, however, that the post above touched me enough to go out and smack the crap out of my car.   Thanks!!

[GTS Cowboy]

Start doing some really weird shit.....like get a ladder out and stomp around of the roof of the house..go in the house unplug all the tv`s..fill a bowl up with ice
leave it in the sink...pack all your old clothes in a plastic bag and set it by the door.turn the shower on then go out and water the grass..ect ect...when she asks what your doing just say
theres some shit going on around here i dont understand......but ill find out...
you will scare the hell out of her and she will leave for a few days and come back .and will never touch your car again. 

...you sick S.O.B.! .....Sorry to hear about your Car and marriage,I guess my advice would be to think about what your gonna do,before you do or say it. This sounds like it could be the begining of the end.I've been married going on 16 years now,never really had any big blowouts yet,so I don't have much experience with women flip'n out but, only you know if this warrants a divorce  

[GTS225]

I don't know........I'm kinda thinking she needs to be enrolled in tech school for a new career......like Auto Body Repair and Restoration, using your car as her class final project.  That might be a good lesson on respect for older cars, and the work required to get them nice again.

Roger

[b569rr]

What a stupid thing to do. My wife knows how much they are worth and threatens to sell them when we argue, not destroy them.   

she is much more pleasant when I pay her some attention.

[Daniel]

Since she took it out on the car maybe she feels that you spend more time, attention to the car then her.

[jamesdart]

see there are bad parts about nice paint.... although your car is really nice. still just a car. next time you are getting some action grab a wad of icy hot, hang on for dear life and smear it in her ass. 

[satellite65]

You've gotta be kidding! This was an act of SPITE. Yes. It is just a car and if it were an accident he would probably just fix it and get on with life. As far as a "payment plan" out of her pocket is concerned, in the end it all comes from the same place. It's not really about the car, more so the fact that she wanted to "hurt" him and this was convenient and effective. Now he's going to put the car in storage where it will be safe. What happens next time she gets angry and decides to "hurt" him. What will she damage? The home or, god forbid, the kids? The dog? When does it end? I'm sorry but sometimes love and compassion and understanding just doesn't get the job done. She has anger management issues and needs professional help.

I wouldn't compare putting a dent in someone's car to hitting an innocent bystander.  My last relationship was pretty nasty at times.  Kinda like what Jack's sounds like.  I loved the boy to death but we would argue a lot and take it way too far.  He was the king of mental abuse and I was the queen of physical.  I wouldn't say I have a serious temper but that boy knew exactly what to say to cut me right to the bone and get a reaction.  Did I swing at him? A couple of times.  Did I throw an elbow into his truck? Once.  He made me so freakin angry and hurt with what he would say.  Although violence is never justified,  it's easy to push people over the edge. However,  I learned to control my temper but he never could control his mouth and thus why we are not together anymore.  I would have never hurt his cats or someone else though.
From what I've read from  Dave today, it sounds like he isn't too sympathetic to his wife's feelings whether her reasons for feeling that way are justified or not.  She definitely seems like she's frustrated and I'm sure Dave just calling it "woman crap" is just making things worse for her.  I'm not saying who's fault it is since we are all just getting one side of the story here but it seems like you both need to stop and talk instead of throwing the blame on each other and creating anymore resent.  If you can't come to some sort of understanding then maybe it is time to seek further help or call it quits. 
I'm not all that experienced in the relationship field but that's my $.02; some of which I may regret admitting to here later.

Jen,

I didn't mean to imply that she would hurt anyone directly. I don't think she actually "hit" the car. She probably threw or slammed something in a fit of rage and the car got damaged. Could've been a dog, or a kid, or herself for that matter. The point I was trying to make is that it's unacceptable behavior. This time something got hurt, next time someone might get hurt. It needs to end.

Steve

[Jens69BB]

Jen,

I didn't mean to imply that she would hurt anyone directly. I don't think she actually "hit" the car. She probably threw or slammed something in a fit of rage and the car got damaged. Could've been a dog, or a kid, or herself for that matter. The point I was trying to make is that it's unacceptable behavior. This time something got hurt, next time someone might get hurt. It needs to end.

Steve

Oh, I see.  I thought you were referring to her temper escalating and turning her abusive towards others.  My bad.

[satellite65]

Could go that way too if it's not kept in check. Hot tempers generally don't get better with age.

[oldkimmer]

..............WOW.....U say u do things 4 your wife, Y not do things with her so she doesnt feel neglected and taken 4 granted? There is always 2 sides to every story....Y not sit down with her and discuss your lives...or with a proffesional.....I can plainly see u care more 4 your car than your wife, thats really sad, if thats the case u should have done something  long ago.......kim...............

[67dartgt]

I'm having some home life issues with the SO......to the point at least once or twice where I actually did wonder what I would do if i came home to a damaged dart. I could never get past that thought though. Could never figure out how i would react. I'm sorry for your situation. For the damage to the car, but more so for the issue this is going to create at home. I like relationships, and when they're good they're great! But when they're bad, I don't think there's much worse.

I kind of agree with Kim, and kind of not..........on one hand it may seem like you care for the car more than her, but on the other hand she probalby knew very well what it meant to him. To do something like that to something that is valued so dearly by a loved one is another type of insult altogether. At the end of it all, my SO has one hell of a temper, and no matter what I would ever do to her, I believe she would still have the respect to confront me in some other way before going to the dart.

The fact that she hasn't said a word to you about it, and you've said nothing to her yet, is a big clue that this may be the beginning of the end. Of course, this coming from a guy who can't get his own home life together. So, that's my $.02.

- Don

[318_Magnum]

Ah, ok, enough joking from me. It's time to get real here... We can all offer him advice and so on, but it won't improve his situation to the slightest degree. I believe he came here more as an outlet... To vent, like we all do... Rather than seeking our assistance. Keeping this fueled on here will only exacerbate his issue at home.

That being said, I'd like to throw this out there to the original poster: I deal with this sort of thing every day... As I'm sure you're aware, your situation is hardly unique. I more or less make a living because every couple has its problems at some point. I'm trying to stay on the more objective and human side of this matter like a friend would without getting overly analytical with anyone here... Of course, I can do that if you'd like, but judging by the way you stated the original post, you came here more for consolation and sympathy than for real help. Understandably so. The bottom line is that you both have to come to realize that this is all childish and petty in retrospect... You can fix a car a lot easier than you can fix a marriage. Contempt is the killer blow to a relationship of any kind, and, without knowing either of you or your particular situation, I can sense the contemptment festering from your differences. The way she damaged something she obviously knows you take very much pride in in retribution for an unresolved issue of some sort, and the way you've spoken of the matter, are key indicators of this. Both of you need to be civil with each other and sort things out... And no, I'm not going to feed you that "sit down and talk about it" crap (this normally just escalates into a shouting match anyways, and is truly ineffective for productive problem solving), but you do know each other well, so if you'd like things to improve, you must show each other by at least attempting to address each other's concerns. From either person's shoes, they have a valid point... You just have to make an honest effort to see it their way. You can take the initiative and hope it pays off, but there's no guarantee. If you cant commit yourselves to turning the negatives into positives, though, there's not much anyone can do, period.